If you had just been engaged, I’m sure this is an exciting time to be researching and planning out details of your wedding ceremony. For many people, this process can also be very stressful but we are here to help!
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Writing Your Vows
When it comes to writing your wedding vows, do you feel like you’ve contracted a major case of writer’s block? Is getting your partner to create a set of vows like pulling teeth? Don’t be insulted or worried…writing original wedding vows is just as stressful as picking out a location and writing up a guest list. Sure it’s easy to remember all of the things you love about your partner, but how do you put it into words?
When writing your vows, the first thing that you need to do is sit down with your partner and decide what the tone of the vows will be. Are they going to be serious and traditional, or contemporary and lighthearted? Are you going to kid around with each other or honestly profess your hopes for the years ahead?
Once you have both agreed on the tone of your wedding vows, you can take the time to make a list of what you want your marriage to entail. Trust? Faithfulness? Honesty? Love? Passion? Respect? A sense of humor at all times? Think about the things that you want to bring to the marriage and what you hope your partner will bring.
Next, make a list of all the things that you love about your partner and about your life together. By this time, you should have some pretty good material to work with, and may even see a set of vows forming themselves.
If you still are totally clueless, then don’t feel bad about using lines from some traditional vows to give you a boost. Take a look at what others have done and feel free to use their format, while adding in elements from your own relationship to make it special. However, even if you come across a set of vows that you think is perfect the way it is, take the time to add a personal touch to it…your partner will appreciate the effort.
The last step to writing your own vows is to get the approval from your partner. While this may sound sort of unromantic, it’s the best way to make sure that you and your partner are on the same page. You may also realize after reading your vows to one another that you like one or the others ideas.
When you are writing your own vows, it is entirely up to you what you want to say. In traditional vows, the couples mirror each other using the same words, and just replacing the names. However, when you write you own vows, you can each say something different so you aren’t being repetitive.
After a full run through of your final vows, you may decide that you like one way better than the other. The important thing to remember is to have fun with them and make your vows a true reflection of your love for one another on your special day. Just remember that your wedding vows are powerful words and represent the special union between you and your partner, and the rest should come easily.
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